Family Rights Association
- Real World Stories
- Another Woman's Child
march 15, 1989, I became introduced to a completely foreign subject ----
stepdaughter. Can you believe a grown woman could be afraid of a 9 year old
child? I was terrified that she would not like me. This should have been the
last of my worries. This loving child would become as much a part of me as if I had
given birth to her. So what was the problem.... the "real" mother.
She was so jealous of the fact that her daughter responded to me with both love and
affection, that this vindictive mother chose to take out her jealousy in the form of
Suddenly, we were confronted with
countless expensive court appearances, harrassing phone calls to our employers and as well
as to ourselves (we finally had the phone disconnected). She even chose to tell her
daughter "not to do anything" I told her. This type of action continued for several
years until we had a "belly full" and filed for custody. At that point we
were suddenly faced with charges of kidnapping, interference with custody and even grand
theft auto because her daughter drove a car bought for her to drive to school to our
we were given custody things settled down a little bit. We were denied child support
from the mother as the court said it is a fathers place to support the children.
Why is this titled
"another woman's child"? Simple---as much as I love my stepdaughter and as
much as she loves me, she has a real mother and this must be respected. A
step-family can be a source of joy, as mine has, but I had to realize that both parents
need to work together and not try to keep a new relationship from forming with the
stepparent. My step
daughter is now 19 and living on her own. She maintains a loving relationship with us as
well as a seperate relationship with her mother and stepfather. If all parents and stepparents would work
together instead of fighting each other, a lot of problems we are facing today with our
children could be partially avoided. Would I do it over again? You bet your life I would!
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